Inner Voice

Your strength is remarkable
Your beauty uncanning on the inside out
Your heart is big
You love hard, give freely and laugh often
You inspire
You encourage
You listen
You learn
You are a true warrior in times of adversity
Your light shines
Your confidents glows
You somehow dismiss worry with your faith
You dream big and live free
Despite my self-consciousness
You are ME...

The Jokes On US

The current presidential race is completely insulting my intelligence. I just feel at any moment, someone is going to pinch me and awake me from this dream. First, I am to believe that a man from the same political party as the current failure of a President, a man who voted with this President over 90% of the time, a man who fails to acknowledge that the current economic crisis is a direct effect of the poor leadership for the last 8 years is suppose to be the next best leader. Yes, I'm suppose to believe this man will provide some ounce of change to this country? Secondly, I am made to believe that an unknown women with less than adequate experience, unfamiliar with foreign polices, Energy possessed, mother of 5 1/2, and articulates her messages on an elementary level quoting Starbucks cups and using slang and southern jargin is going to run the country God forbid something happens to her running mate. Really?! Seriously?! I am insulted when I hear her speak, if I wanted to hear a "homegirl" regurgitate facts about the one subject she knows and completely ignore the other questions and issues, I would call one of my own girlfriends and even then, they are all more articulate than her on any given day. When I watch a debate, I am watching to be informed and enlightened on subjects that matter to the American people, I expect to hear facts, actions plans and I expect it to be delivered in a professional manner not as if I'm at a school PTA meeting. Speak to me as if you are qualified to. It is our duties as citizens to educate ourselves on the issues so when they are asked serious questions, I expect serious, educated and professional answers and not to be insulted as if I didn't realized Energy wasn't even relevant to what was just asked! If people would just put politics aside and look at the character facts of each candidate race and gender aside, we will be able to see that this has got to be a joke. For all I'm concerned the elections should be held on April 1st instead of November because then this would all make sense!

Do As You Will.....

When two people meet and decide that they want to pursue a friendship or a relationship they both know that it will take getting to know one another well before it will even go any where. It is true that we'll all bring some type of baggage to the next stop, whether used for guarding our past broken heart or sharing some experiences that helped in the past as well. The thing I hate the most is when a person says or does something and then tells you that they don't usually do that. OK, it could just be an announcment giving you a little more inside info on them but if said continuously then its simply irritating because what you did or didn't do in the past is irrelevant to me right now in the present. My thoughts are that people do what they want to do and most of time there is some type of the self-fulfilment out of it anyway. So if you have never did something in the past and now do it for me, thanks because I would like to think you are doing it because you want to and that should be the end of the story. No one comes with a rule book so we should do or don't do what we feel based on that individual and not what we are use to or have always done in the past. What you don't do might just be something that I'm use to or vs. versa so it should all depend on the person and timing. As for me, my actions will always come from a place of self-love first and not self-sacrifice for someone else's selfish desire.

Nice Guys Finish Last Because They Come in Last

“Nice Guys” always complain of coming in last but do they really deserve any other position? To come in first place means that at that moment you defeated the competition. Yes, I know men don’t want to think of themselves as being in competition to win a woman’s heart but actually you are. The competition may not just be other guys but can be her friends and family, her career, even her pets (thanks Nick and Marcus for the insight on that one). With other men being the biggest distraction one must always remember that at any given moment we could be doing something else rather than being in your company. With that said, you should always behave in a manner that lets us know that our time is worth spending with you. If most women are like me, I’m always thinking of what else I can be doing with my time. Ok, “nice guys” can you honestly say that you step up to the plate when it comes to dating? Do you say and do the things that she likes just because you know she likes them? Ego aside, nice guys can really move up if they just project that upfront and not wait for the women to ask you to do so. In my experience, I have noticed that most “nice guys” are afraid of rejection so they don’t say or do certain things because they don’t want to be turned down. In my opinion that goes with the saying “nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Sometimes in order to win big, you have to play big and I mean that in the simplest way possible. Not telling her how you truly feel (or saying so in a weirdo way) can cause her to be unsure and possibly move on. You don’t have to always try so hard NOT to be like other guys, trust me if you are a nice guy she will see that from the start and that is probably a major reason why she would even share her time with you. My advice to nice guys is to not be so guarded and let your emotions show a little especially if they are genuine unlike the bad boys in which we already know that. Take more risk when dating, if you are rejected, so what move on. If a woman likes you then she will tell you by her body language as well as her words, if you see the door is open then walk in and not stand there waiting for the invite if so you may be waiting alone and at the end of the race while she is at the finish line with the guy who came in first.

Attention: The Deadly Drought

News Flash: There is a deadly drought going on, causing some men and women to commit dignity suicide when it comes to pursuing another of the opposite sex. This epidemic is spreading ramped through bars, night clubs, malls and even some churches. It’s causing regular self-respecting citizens to become overly “thirsty” for the attention of the opposite sex. It’s actually quite frightening because once one is affected by the outbreak they won’t stop at anything until they have conquered what they want. The days of the low-key, mysterious guys are over, the times of the mild-manner sexy yet classy women are over, it’s open game now! In order to protect yourself from the thirsty vagrants on the loose, let’s go over the signs to look out for: 1. If you notice someone at the bar and they send you over a drink, come over to you, tell you their life story and then invite themselves to hangout with you for the rest of the night: Thirsty! 2. If you run into an old flame and then the next few days you realize that you were moved back into their speed dial category also known as the “dig-up”: Thirsty! 3. If women are at the bar fighting over who is going to buy the one cute guy a drink: Thirsty! 4. If you met a guy at a party and give him your number and he blows your phone up all that night way into the morning hours with hopes of getting up with you that same night: SUPER THIRSTY! These are just four examples of what to watch out for when you are out and about. You need to also be able to recognize whether or not you, yourself are Thirsty: 1. if your entire crew has been with the same person yet you are still trying to get with that person: you are thirsty. 2. If you have been told numerous times that you will never be more than just a friend yet you still try to be more than that: you are thirsty. 3. If regardless of your taste, you take the loudest, most unattractive person home because it was easy: you are thirsty. Be responsible and don’t let friends go out Thirsty. Be careful to spot out Thirsty Packs, these are crews of thirsty people on the prowl; you may have to reject the entire crew by the end of the night. Beware; the thirsty will try to steal your man, woman or anyone that you may be interested in. If you see a Thirsty person getting a little too close to your man or woman, simply throw a glass of water on them, protect your mate! This has been a public service announcement.

Time Off

OK so it looks like my "take over the world" efforts have consumed me a little more than I planned but it's cool, I haven't forgotten about my soul mate (this blog) that has bought me through so much (No Ma, I'm not worshiping false idols it was just a figure of speech). So during my time away I have thought of a few blogs that await their births onto my page such as: "Good guys finish last because they come in last", "Dig A Hole", "How to Date Yourself", and "The Four Zones". Yes, I know you have been waiting patiently but they will be coming soon so stay tuned...

I’m Back

Thanks to a very close friend who’s known me since the high school jammed locker days (you know who you are) other friends and family that believed in me and saw something that I failed to, prayer and writing, I can safely say that I’m Back! With lip gloss poppin and BlackBerry in hand, I’m ready to attempt to take over the world again. In the past “trying to take over the world” has been my answer to the simple everyday question of “what are you up to?” Loosing so much in so little time is a very humbling experience and I’ve learned so many great lessons. When asked how I got over things, I simply reply that I can’t be Pitiful and Powerful at the same time. It’s true when they say you can block your blessings. I for one know that it makes no sense to pray to God and genuinely thank him for your mere existence when in reality you question that same existence that you are thankful for. I want to be sincerely thankful for being alive, healthy, and blessed to have so many who love and care for me. Being depressed (although natural) only defeats your sense to find peace in any situation. Believe me, it’s much easier said than done but I truly can say being grateful beats being sad any day. We have to remember that time is so precious in anything in life and the time that we spent being depressed and wrapped up in our troubles is time that we can never get back and time that we have lost not being able to make the situation better. I may only be back in a small way now but I know I’m destined for greatness. I can say that I’m back because I demand to be back, I command to be back!